Winter La Mon is a 28-year-old transgender man who lives in New York City.
He joined the online dating site OKCupid six years ago, about three years before he transitioned.
He dates men and women, both transgender and cisgender (a term for people who aren't trans).
After La Mon transitioned from female to male, he didn’t change his gender to “male” on his OKCupid profile; instead, he started a second profile where he identified as “male.” He kept the female profile active because he thinks that some women who typically date other women might also be interested in dating transgender men.
So, let’s open up a few more closet doors, move beyond your local Starbucks, explore some options to create a treasure map for where LGBT people hang out and where you can go looking for connections. Harvard did a lecture series for 2012 that involved a collaboration between leading researchers and world class chefs. Libraries do them; nonprofits do them; museums do them; aquariums, historic sites, audubon groups and activists of all sorts do them. It could be a fundraiser to fight cancer like the Maine Tri for a Cure that many lesbians love to support or how about LGBT civil rights events.
Yeah, you’ll meet straight folks but lots of them know LGBT people these days. The University of Maryland and San Diego State University both host as annual LGBT lecture series and there are so many other colleges that do this. One of my favorites is Art Erotica that is put on by the Octopus Club in Austin, Texas to raise money to provide emergency financial assistance to those living with HIV and AIDS in Central Texas.
Whether you’re in a small town or a major city, there are other LGBT people near you. There’s nothing more affirming than having a group of LGBT friends, but if you’re struggling to meet people near you, try finding friends online.
Gay Jewish men are finding each other and building fulfilling relationships that last.In 2013, an online petition asking OKCupid to accommodate trans and genderqueer people received more than 1,000 signatures.Ryley Pogensky, the genderqueer person who created the petition, said that when he asked OKCupid about adding more gender identity options, a representative told him it would be difficult to change the site because it was built “in a pretty binary way.” La Mon has noticed that his male and female OKCupid profiles get different matches.While he has dated some people through the site—it’s where he met the woman he’s seeing—he is frustrated with the limited ways transgender people are able to identify on the site, “because you don’t fit into these little boxes, or the people you’re interested in don’t fit in neat little boxes.” La Mon wasn't alone in his discontent.Last year, Yeni Sleidi met a software developer named Asher Snyder who was fed up with what he calls the “Tinderification” of online dating.Critical Images.check Image For Criticality(this);"/Are you ready to find your soulmate?