Remarriage based on that agenda often has more “holes” than “wholes.” Keep in mind that children typically accept dad’s dating more than mom’s dating.
Getting along with your former spouse or partner may seem impossible at times.
The following are some tips to help you avoid a post-breakup backslide into your ex’s arms, and instead ease you into your happily ever after future: Create new Boundaries Your best defense after a breakup? That means no phone calls, no e-mails, no texting, and definitely no late-night visits. That means it’s time to “ex-tricate” him or her from your life. You just have to create special new boundaries, only dealing with and talking to your ex when absolutely necessary about your common interests, i.e., the children, business, work. And in the era of social networking sites and You Tube, it’s all too easy to go online and spew in front of millions of readers/viewers. By going online and bashing your ex on your blog, via video diary, or to everyone in your social network, you are inviting bad breakup karma into your life. Handle the Dreaded Run-in with Class While it would be fabulous if your ex could be automatically ejected from the planet following the breakup, that technology has yet to be invented.
What if you can’t completely cut off contact because you have children together, run a business together, or work together? If your ex wants to know how you’re handling the breakup? And you know what they say—what comes around goes around. And depending on the size of the city you live in, a post-breakup run-in with your ex is not only possible, it’s probable. Bumping into him does not mean that the two of you are meant to be together.
Learn what you can do to prepare for her remarriage and how you and your kids will cope when your ex-wife remarries.
Recently, I had a call from one of my good divorced friends who just got the news that his ex was remarrying, asking for some divorce advice.
The questions you should ask if that happens to you include: “What do you want to do?